I might not be the most friendly of a person or the most caring to be around. I noticed that I had a habit of "working up" with people around me. Sometimes it felt like a pet project of giving someone some assistance and watching this individual improve. It would feel like my own winning when this person achieves his goal.
However, I've also realized that it's not always possible for everyone to reach their desired level of success. It used to make me feel depressed when my projects didn't succeed. It feels like I am the one losing even thou physically I am not losing anything at all. Only maturity makes me realize that not all people are destined to reach a certain level. Maybe their success is at that level only.
If all success levels are the same then who is the one going to the normal daily route. If you want to achieve a higher level of success, you can't rely on the same strategies and effort as everyone else. You need to find an alternative and work harder than others.
Most people work eight to five and hope to retire with enough money to get by. They spend what they have in their retirement fund when they retire, take simple odds jobs to survive, or hope on their kids to help them. Is that what you want? No. you wanted to retire early, you wanted to buy what you wanted and have a hefty saving for retirement. All this would not be happening if you just worked out eight to five and later complained that you were not earning enough and life is hard. You have no choice actually, you have to hustle until you make it. Find an alternative, and work longer hours. That makes you different from others.
Running a family economically is similar to business if you notice. Each individual is like an entity in a business chain. It required to be set to a certain extent to make it work. Of course, we have our value and love as a family member that we need to take into account. Blindly running the family based on love only would not make it. One of the principles that I hold to, is true that as a husband you need to provide for the family. It is a tradition but does that make a wife do not have any requirement to provide? Then what is the purpose of all the women seeking equal rights?
I firmly believe that no matter what is the condition as a wife you need to do something and earn your keep. Only after earning you know the value of money and you can appreciate it. Appreciating what you earn and have is the basis for keeping your house economy better. You might not earn more but at least you keep what you have from leaking out. Abah used to say "Easy money comes and easier it goes". It may sound funny but actually, it is how we appreciate it.
Another one is the relationship between children and parents. Imagine a situation where when your parents raised you up and spending for you, you are actually on a loan with them. From day zero until you can earn on your own let's say that they had spent 100,000.00 on you. Then, it is right for you to pay them back. The amount may be subject to your economic power. The tenure is as long as your parent is alive. It a morally righteous for you to give back because anyhow your parent must have spent something on you growing up. From a parent's point of view, growing up a kid is an investment. You grow them well, they are good economically they pay you back well. If you factor in love incorrectly, then you have a case of parents feeling that they cannot be too hard on their children, they do not want their children to have a hard life ending up supporting their children's lives.
Acting professionally is not a sign that you are not loving or caring for your family. It is actually, your ways of giving them the rope to reach a better height.