Some where out there there is an idea of being a man is easy. You get to be self promote to head, leader and king when you get marry. There no such need for you to do house chores and all the get serve to you by others. Some where you get to decide all the thing in marriage, divorce and marry up to four. Yes, this ideology still out there and practiced by some people. Easy husband.
Wife and kids.
Wife, you start with something smart already, can sustain by herself and can be teach. How ever there is a catch she may be stuck with what she had learn prior to you and there another thing call stubborn. She may have a lot of negative trade. if in early stage you just let the negative keep happening one day you might not stand it and it is already to late. How you decide to treat you wife at day one will decide how your wife treat you until you die. As a man or woman you can choose who ever you want to marry. There is what people call jodoh but end of the day it is still you who decide and say yes for it. What you choose will decide your future. This is one of the biggest gamble in your life and make sure you have your risk calculated.
Kids, you start with zero, blank page, totally will not sustain him self, hard to be teach at the start. Maybe after 2 or 3 years if you do it right it will be easier to shape your kids. This one we can say you cannot choose what kind of kids you want, the best bet you have look at yourself and the wife you choose. Your kids might be the mix of both of you. If you decide from day one to focus on your kids and shape him properly he will grow up find and will not be a pain in the ass. This really will drain you up and you can easily fuck it up. So it not just about having kids it is more to developing them. Do it right they will help you later.
So which one is easier to shape, wife or kids? the one who think that they want to be the best version of themselves will be the easier to shape. It can be both wife and kids.
Hard Husband think about all this. What happen later all lies on the man shoulder.
The choice is your to be what kind of man to your family.